Of feminism and blurring of the sexes (from a woman's perspective)
In the midst of our change,
We no longer complement one another,
No longer intertwined,
Breaking the delicate balance of nature.
I ask myself- Why did this happen? There is no single answer.
A twisty problem,
Not easily solved.
Has nature been sacrificed for progress?
When fate,
Is no longer determined by the forces,
But by Man.
Women have come a long way. True, we still take the major responsibility of pregnancy when unfaithful men take flight. True, women still hold a lesser percentage of the top positions. True, successful women are likely to be accused of sleeping their way to the top. However, are women really at a disadvantage compared to men? I'm not sure about other countries, but let's take a look at it in the local context. We expect men to be sensitive yet manly. We expect men to be successful in their careers yet still have time for us. And best of all, we women just seem to be wanting to enjoy all the perks men have in addition to the advantages we women get from men. I'm talking about wanting a successful career while still expecting men to foot the bill on the first date.
In our progress, have both genders changed? It appears that women are getting more masculine while men are getting more feminine. Studies have shown that men have higher sex drives than women. A man once told me- "Men are like microwave ovens, women are like rice cookers." Yet, there is a conflicting study that women are in general getting more promiscuous. Just look at all the raving females ogling at handsome men nowadays.. And who have heard about the terms S.N.A.G and metrosexual say, thirty years ago? I haven't.
If women really want feminism, I'II say go and serve your national service. That'll prove to men once and for all that you're equal. There's no excuse that your physical strength is not up to mark.. Climbing a wall and running for kilometres comes with part of the package of being a male. You want to be equal, right?
Don't get me wrong. I'm not denouncing feminism. I'm just confused with the blurring of the sexes. It's because of this reason that I'm grateful that men are still the dominant gender in engineering and ditto for women in the arts and social sciences. At least the studies that have shown that men are more capable in mathematics and women more so in languages have not gone to waste. Ditto for studies showing that men are generally more aggressive and women are relatively more docile. And again, ditto for the fact that generally men tend to be more left-brained and women right brained, though perhaps that's not always true. Yet, all these research have not gone to waste. At the very least, they reassure the men and women of the world of the differences inherent between us.
I really wonder whether we have overdone the feminism movement in Singapore.Can someone please explain to me why men now go to foreign countries to get brides? Do they really love them? Are we Singaporean women at fault for this trend? Sometimes it seems that the men want to get settled down while the women don't. Perhaps we're enjoying our empowerment we get from making a living for ourselves. Perhaps we're aggressive women who don't want to slave over a stove and do household chores. Yet, on the other hand, perhaps we haven't found the right one yet, whatever that means.
If men are dissatisfied with us,I am of the belief that we should set up a "malinism" movement. They can hold sessions to discuss their issues and their dissatisfaction with Singaporean women at any rate. I made up this term derived from the word male. It's a pun on feminism actually. If we merely have feminism, women will always be seen as the weaker sex, which is untrue. A movement exists to protect the rights of a certain group. If so for women, why not for men? Men have their weaknesses as well.
This article was actually born after a seminar that I had attended regarding Singaporean women in the 21st Century. There was a question and answer section and one man was asking what the difference was between men and women in Singapore now. He was confused and demanded what women really want. He also felt that that the feminism movement had already gone too far in Singapore.
Well, here's to all men out there who are as confused as him. These are the basics we women are wanting from you:
Don't treat us as merely sexual objects. Don't beat us. Don't deprive us of equal chances and opportunities in the career world. Of course, there might be women who ask for more. Yet, these are the fundamental basics we women ask for. And if you can give this to us, we'll just like to say a BIG THANK YOU!
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Crystal says on 2007-03-03 03:04:46 about
Actually, feminism didn't really take root when the women took their bread to Bastille. Remember war? While the men were out fighting, the economy was left in shreds. That was when women worked in the factories and that was when feminism really started.
About treating women as sexual objects, I mean not treating us TOTALLY like sexual objects. I think different women have different mentalities as to the percentage upon 100 % they want to be viewed with a wolf's eye. But, also depending on the man, of course.
anon. says on 2005-11-01 12:30:16 about
men are actually right brained and women left brained.
Laughing says on 2005-04-01 08:36:07 about
Here's a news flash for the women out there; from a male perspective, of course. Men don't want what you are offering. My best mate has just found the true secret to happiness. It consists of the following:
1. He has custody of the kids (she doesn't because she's a nutter).
2. He has good mates.
3. He has a good job.
4. He has a girlfriend who has her own place (not the mother). They will never be a couple and will never live together.
5. No bitching - no whinging - no PMS.
Ladies - you have over valued your assets and now you have nothing.
I'm defititely looking forward to seeing women fall into utter misery because they have forsaken biology for ideology. There's some nasties install and I will love every second of it.
Men\'s Rights Matter says on 2005-03-31 20:27:07 about Feminism=insanity
"Don’t treat us as merely sexual objects."
Second fastest way for a man to lose a woman: treating her as a sexual object. Fastest way: Not treating her as a sexual object. The golden rule: DO NOT LISTEN TO WOMEN TELLING YOU WHAT THEY WANT- THEY DO NOT KNOW THIS THEMSELVES.
"Don’t beat us."
Fine, we won't beat her. But she must not toy with our emotions, and she MUST NOT PROVOKE US.
"Don’t deprive us of equal chances and opportunities in the career world."
Men are deprived opportuinities by Affirmative Action rewarding women with jobs not based on merit, but on gender. Women have MORE opportunity than men, including the opportunity to stay home and have someone else provide for her. Men cannot do this. Men have less choice in the career world than women.
Snakey says on 2005-03-31 20:18:16 about Feminism = Intellectual Fraud
History will remember feminism as a dishonest theivery, or an illness that infected academia in the 20th century and led to the toppling of America as the world power. People are judged by their genitals, that is precisely the problem: affirmative action and promotions are awarded to underseving women because they are women. That AA is needed by women proves only that women are not equals. Feminism is a 100 year tantrum, a mental illness. Nothing more. History will condemn it, and history will condemn us for allowing feminism to get away with its legacy of insanity/lies.
Unapologetic Man says on 2005-03-31 17:02:55 about Blurring the Sexes
The real rules:
1. Men must always foot the bill. That's exempt from Eek-wallet-ee.
2. Men must always risk their lives for women. That's exempt from Eek-wallet-ee.
3. Men cannot want sex. Women can. That's exempt from Eek-wallet-ee.
gazpacho says on 2005-03-31 16:53:18 about
People aren't being judged by their genitals? I beg to differ. Ever heard of "The Vagina Monologues?" Yeah, that was written by a woman, too. It defintes women entirely in terms of their genitals. In a sincere, not sarcastic way.
PS I think a more serious contradiction is the fact that women expect their men to be successful in their careers, AND women expect to be just as successful in their careers, even though women entering the workforce increases the competition for jobs, leading to fewer successful men.
ZrM says on 2005-03-31 15:43:15 about feminism=oppression
The only way feminism can exist is through the presence of an inefficient, monolithic, intrusive Big Brother/Big Sister-style government that takes more and more rights in an attempt to force "equality" where quite obviously none exists - thus creating more and more social problems, inefficiency, depression, crime/violence, etc.
Feminism is like a cancer on society, it eats away at the intellect and de-evolves both mind and spirit. It turns people into zombies who are devoid of all free thought as they endlessly regurgitate the same party line.
It turns women into a special, protected class with more rights and privileges than men. Looking at the system of laws, this becomes increasingly clear. Women can falsely accuse men of rape and ruin their lives; if they are found out, they on the other hand are almost never punished in any way - certainly not anywhere near as much as the men (who go to prison, often for decades). That this breeds a deep seated hatred goes without saying.
Nothing good will come out of this in the long run. Feminism will eventually die, but not before it has done great damage to civilization.
Jan says on 2005-03-25 00:02:08 about Feminism is happiness
I'm glad the lines are blurring, I'm glad people are being judged not on their genitals, but on their personalities, skills and real inclinations. I'm glad we're all growing and learning new ways of being. I like being sexually free, I like sensitive men, or strong men, or sensitive women, or strong women. People should be free, and who needs to be afraid of freedom. It's beautiful and it's fun and feminism gave it to us. So love to the feminist revolution. I'm proud to be a part of it. As for war, let's hope to put an end to it, so neither sex will ever have to die because we haven't learned a better way to solve our problems.
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