Self-help books steadily occupy best-sellers lists. Are we so desperate
for advice? Is where any help in between those soft and hard covers
with promising slogan-like titles? Last weekend yours truly was looking
for some new reading. Being a true admirer of books on paper, I still
get perfect use of multiple advantages of our computerized age.
And when I need to find a book, I like to do some research online.
Scrolling through the amazon.com list of best sellers, I made an
interesting observation: five of ten books in the list were related to
so-called self-help category. It appears, there are plenty of people
seeking some kind of help, looking to improve anything from spiritual
life (The Purpose-Driven Life by Rick Warren) to body-mass index (The
South Beach Diet by Arthur Agatston). Given the certain popularity of
self-help books, I have a question to ask: are we really so desperate
for any advise?
And if we are, is there any help in between those soft and hard covers
with promising slogan-like titles? If we take a closer look, the
self-help varieties fall into numerous sub-topics, which seem to
respond almost to any aspect of human life. The self-improvement
manuals may be handy for those who are addicted to improving the
perfection of body or mind.
There are motivational books ready to boost your will, and volumes
dedicated to fix your social and private relationships. Some topics, in
my opinion, should not be the subject of self-help of any kind. Cases
of social anxiety disorder, depression, abnormal eating patterns and
such, needed to be addressed by professional during a personalized
session. But, here they are: The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook by
Edmund J. Bourne, Ph.D.; Overcoming Anorexia Nervosa: A Self-Help Guide
Using Cognitive Behavioral Techniques by Chris Freeman, and many, many
more.
On the other hand, such masterpieces as 100 habits of a good wife, 12
steps to happier self, How to be a perfect lover are as entertaining as
they are impotent. Why? The reason is the people who write them. The
author may live through the rehab, or add a number of abbreviations
next to his name, but that does not necessarily make them an authority
on the subject.
There is no such substance abuse practice or diploma, which can make
anybody the authority to teach you to live your life. I, personally,
view those pearls of wisdom as the authors own therapy: there is the
search for acceptance by society (readers), the much needed closure
after traumatic experiences, battles with phobias and complexes,
rebuilding their own self. The profit for a book may come handy too.
The point is, self-help book writers are no different, than any of
their readers. Maybe this similarity is the reason we keep buying those
books? Whatever the truth is, I have not heard anybody asking this
question. Self-help sells, and its sells well.
There is hardly a general topic magazine without a write-in advise
column. Life couches, advisers, and planners ready to help you in any
kind of challenge you may stumble over on your way. Dr. Phil McGraws
fast growing national-wide practice, is ready to treat us with all
means possible, starting from his self-help books and the show,
securely nested in the prime-time hour, to dietary food items. Dr. Phil
hits all the society hot buttons, starting from the relationships
within families, to weight-loss challenges.
Feels like some kind of psychological fast food: McGraws: Come
troubled, leave happy! Good or not, the multiple self-help guides and
shows can serve only as a humble band-aid strip, covering your
psychological wound, rather than healing it. There is much more helpful
resource for self-evaluation, self-improvement and aid: your family and
friends. They are people who knows you, and, most important, treat you
as a unique personality, and will not operate with general concepts and
universal templates.
Next time, when you find yourself buying a new self-help manual, or
reaching for a remote to tune on one of those TV sessions, call a close
friend or relative instead; maybe plan a get-together, a picnic, a
dinner and a movie. And dont be afraid to talk about your life and,
yes, your problems. And listen, too.
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