YOU LOVE ME?
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Love is something that always held my interest even when I was a child. Something about that word makes us react from within. Some people become emotional and react gently towards their loved one while others have proven to react violently to those words. What is it about love that reminds us we are human? It is a universal word seldom defined by two people yet desired to be heard. As I go into the years of my life I am finding love to be a word that is spoken freely without any accountability of its meaning. I feel this is why people are so misunderstood by one another. “I love you” were words that was suppose to build us up and give us strength to exist in a world of difficulty; yet in reality, we are learning those words are not delivering results that make this world a better place. Why is that?
Yesterday while I was having dinner with my son, Marcus we found it interesting that we both have learned our feelings are not equated in our identity when we are involved in relationships. We found it to be a dilemma to how someone can say he or she loves us and find no interest in our feelings especially those that make us happy. I wondered when someone says he or she loves you; do you really understand what is being said?
Someone shared with me their lack of not understanding why a woman he is willing to provide for along with her illegitimate child would find it an inconvenience to not go to the store and buy him some socks knowing he needed them. Then, someone shared with me that it is not understood why someone would not join them in going to the store after being asked by the one she supposedly loves. It was amazing to realize people say I love you quite freely but their actions say something different. Why would a man you may not see for months on end leave your state and return to his not honoring a simple request of leaving his fragrance on your pillow? How can a woman knowing her fiancée’ is heading to Iraq refuse his call because she is busy doing hair? What keeps people from being conscious of other people's feelings especially when they supposedly love you?
This dilemma is not uncommon. In fact it is very common. People who would rather not be alone allow the one they love to not fulfill their needs. Years go by and one is happy while the other is unhappy. Many affairs result as a result of accepting less than you deserve from a relationship. If someone tells you he or she loves you, what is it that is being loved. If it is not your feelings and thoughts that make you who you are, then what is it that someone loves about you?
I am sure we all have been told "I love you" and found these words to make us feel special and willing to share more of ourselves with others. But do we really understand what it really means? Universally speaking, I am coming to learn these powerful words mean there is something in you I can incorporate into my life. I can overlook the aspects of you I do not like. And, I am willing to share my space with you if you are willing to share your space with me. Is this enough for a special relationship? You tell me.
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