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Done with One/ Ellie 2008-11-13 20:58:29

I'm so torn. I always said to myself "If you have one you have to have another one." After my daughter who's almost 3 was born and to this day I truly have no desire to have another one. But then some days I think I should so my daughter would have a playmate. But who's to say she even wants one! As a teacher one of my biggest fears of having another is the risk of autism because then I'd really be taking away time from my daughter to care for my other child. I hate when people make me feel bad for choosing to only have one child. My husband and I feel good about our choice. We feel blessed and I just feel like "why be greedy". We feel with one, we can at least get to do more things together and give more (not material things, but life experience) to her. I have 25 kids all day long by the time I come home I'm shot. I summon up the energy for my daughter, but I often wonder how I'd do it if I had more kids. I know..."you just do it". But I guess the question is do I really want to? I'm very happy with my family of three. Besides 3 is a great number. If you're spiritual, the Holy Trinity is 3. So there's nothing wrong with being a family of 3!

i can't make it final/ melanie 2008-10-23 07:30:47

I don't know what my problem is me and my hubby had a son 8 years ago ,i aumed i would have more but hubby didnt want .ive never really got the urge but now hubby says yes if i want to .i do wonder in the back of my mind what it would be like for us to see them play and for my son ,but then when really faced with it i feel no and panic . im not sure why panic as ive loved every part with my son . does anyone else get this?

/ christo 2008-08-22 00:28:19

I had depression after my son was born and my husband works away. Due to this I am happy with one child and have no desire for more.
I enjoy my 2 year old a lot more than when he was a newborn and I have no desire to go back there again.
With all the cases of child abuse happening lately in australia due to mothers being unable to cope with several children I think people should back off those who only decide to have one as usually parents have a good reason for their decision.

only child/ scully 2008-08-05 19:56:43

I am a mother of one child whom is 7 years old. My husband and I decided for our family one child was the best. This decision was made after our daughter was born. We still firmly believe it is the right decision for us. Everyone's situation is different and if a family has one child or another has three it should not be judged upon. In our situation we discussed that if we had more than one child we honestly believed that we would not be able to give them in life all that we wish we could. I was a child of three and to this day I strongly believe that having more than one is very difficult for parents to give 100% in many areas of life. This is where I believe that parents should seriously think about issues such as time, education, financial etc before they decide on having more than one child. I have had many negative comments on having one child and to all those mothers who are experiencing this, my best advice is to remember that everyone's situation is different! Follow what you believe is right for you and your family not everyone else around you.

Done after one/ Susan 2008-07-15 19:25:46

One is about all we're able to handle, and my son is a well adjusted happy person.

/ Kimberly 2008-02-25 19:38:49

At least you ladies have the sense to stop I at one child. I applaud you.

Done after one/ Jennifer 2004-09-21 04:48:56

Great article!!!!

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