Loneliness might not be such a bad thing after all

USA says on 2012-02-11 19:55:49 about cuVwEmFLcwdUOLunygQ

V5LYKX Yeah, it is clear now !... From the very beginning I did not understand where was the connection with the title !!...

Twacie says on 2004-11-23 10:36:12 about

Really interesting, Crys.. I'm sure most women can identify with what you felt in the poem!

Some comments: As the anonymous guy said above, better approached from a theoretical pov rather than addressing people who are lonely. It's not particularly helpful to be told "It's good for character building." when you're dying for someone to care, to listen, to understand. And people have died for loneliness. People need other people. Preaching doesn't help any. :)

anon. says on 2004-11-22 13:13:08 about

mmm....interesting thesis. heh. :P

But since this is a "rationalisation", then it's debatable, as well.

Perhaps a way to write even better is subtly bring your experiences into it, such that the audience can relate. Without sounding whiny or complaining or self-indulgent, but just to prove a point.

Thought this idea could be brought across in a more graceful, witty,less in-your-face way, though. heh. It's a matter of tone. It sounds abit like a witty journalist-wannabe.
heh oops, er, until perhaps i read sumiki tan again and notice a similarity in styles.;P

Anyway, back to rationalisation. Such a topic can be worth doing a few pages long thesis on.

I am not sure whether the desire for companionship necessarily equates loneliness exactly. The desire to make friends simply to counter loneliness might not be the most, desirable way of relating to people. If loneliness causes one to call chatlines and to become desperate for companionship in other ways, such as sleeping around or something, is that still good?

Why do you say loneliness stems from selfishness? The desire to fight loneliness by deliberately being nice to others might not speak of pure altruism, obviously, but loneliness itself is not caused by selfishness..

Being well-connected with people is also a way for one to take advantage of his network and make it work for himself. It is not necessary that one with a wider social circle of friends is less selfish than one who is "lonely" or alone.

heh i find the last piece of advice unconsoling and purely self-delusive. heh, oops, i don't easily buy an argument.:P

Perhaps if put in such a way as, man's desire for companionship often results in feelings of loneliness, especially when they feel unloved or not understood. No man is an island and we are all made to desire company. Hence, loneliness is not necessarily a negative thing, but is merely part of who we are. And it is in the attempts to fight these moments of anguish, and to connect with people in order to love and to be loved, that makes the world that we know of a much better and warmer place to be in. Do not be ashamed of your loneliness. Many people out there feel the same, and you never know, friends might be more than ready to be the healer and comforter of your loneliness if only they knew. Loneliness speaks of you being human , and is what prompts to you get out of your shell, and to discover yourself through invaluable friendships formed with others.

heh maybe this sounds more academic than article-like.:P juz my humble opinion.